When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer
When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer, it is truly awful. Not only does their world turn upside down, but things can change for you too. You’ll find that your friend or family member isn’t really around for you as much as they once were: after all, having cancer is a busy time with all the hospital appointments for tests, scans, treatment and monitoring. And when they’re not at the hospital the chances are that they’ll be feeling pretty rough from treatment, anxious about what they’re going through and quite possibly distracted from normal life.
So, you’re going to have to be a little extra caring. This might mean not expecting quite as much from your friend or family member – don’t expect them to reply to texts or messages as quickly or frequently as they once did. Be understanding of what they’re going through. Offer practical help – at the moment with the COVID lockdown there are limits to the practical assistance you can provide but you can still make meals and deliver them to their doorstep (if they live close enough).
For many people going through cancer, it means a lot to be in someone’s thoughts so why don’t you send a text, card or letter just to tell them that you’re thinking of them and you’re not expecting a reply. And what about a gift? It’s a natural instinct to want to buy a gift for a loved one who is going through cancer treatment, but don’t go for the obvious bunch of flowers. Flowers are not a good choice for some patients because with a lowered immune system, in fact, flowers can actually cause problems for some patients.
So, back to the drawing board: what can you give your loved one? Well, why not take a look at the Ticking Off Breast Cancer Gift Guide. This is a list of gift ideas from practical items (like a beautiful notepad and pen), to DIY gift baskets (like the box of sunshine or the chemo care package), to special treats (like a soft blanket). There really is something for everyone. To read more head over to https://www.tickingoffbreastcancer.com/for-friends-and-family/gift-kindness-gift-ideas-someone-going-breast-cancer-treatment
Ticking Off Breast Cancer aims to help people going through breast cancer. There is a website www.tickingoffbreastcancer.com and a book (available via Amazon and all online bookstores)
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